Hello friends! I’m back and I’ll start with a little recap of what’s happened since my last post: I have since gotten married, had a baby, been promoted at work, slowed my LLC down, and became an aunt. It’s been a year of firsts and the biggest adjustment would be the honor of becoming Christopher Hogie’s mom ☺️. I’ve been quiet on here trying to decide what to write and it hit me while I had a brief conversation with another new mom on Instagram. So, today I will be discussing moms and the feeling of love. *Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional these are my thoughts and feelings on my own personal experience.
The Love: When you are pregnant with your first everyone will tell you, ‘it’s love at first sight.’ Of course you believe them! They’re talking about a human growing inside you that is 50% you, 50% your spouse and 100% uniquely them – what is not love!?
Well, what people don’t mention is that the love feels different than the ‘in love,’ love. I would agree it is love at first sight and I loved my son the moment I knew of him but it’s a protective almost, if not, instinctual love. Every mother loves their baby, no question. So, what the heck am I talking about?
As I was reminiscing about when Christopher was born compared to now, 9-months-old, I realized – my love bloomed over time. It was always there at my core like a seed planting its roots during the nightly feedings, diaper changes, and cries. As his lovely personality started to shine through. It rooted on the days that were trying and nights that seemed endless. The love was there and it grew and continues to grow.
I think it was month 3 or 4 when it really hit me. We started to truly understand each other. It was then that my love bloomed and we started to feel understood by each other. We’d play games and he has started sharing his food and toys with my husband and I! I find myself just sitting there at times watching my son in awe of his determination to figure out how to put a cheerio in his mouth or use a toy. I remember my mom telling me that my grandpa Uncie used to say, “I don’t remember my life before my children. I just know there was a time before and then my life began.” How true! I’m only 9 months into this game and It feels like forever and I can’t picture myself without Christopher. As our children grow I can only expect that my love for them will as well.
The Takeaway: I have found that seeking out those who you trust who are mothers are the best resource when I have questions. Don’t be afraid to reach out and if you feel you don’t have anyone please send me a message, I’d gladly be yours!
“When you are looking at a mother, you are looking at the purest love you will ever know.”
Charley Benetto
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